The 50 Shades of Grey trailer came out today; and with it, my social media explodes.
While my Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram news feeds display racy clips and February 2015 countdowns, my heart breaks.
Ladies, please. Please no.
The summer following my freshman year of college was rough. I rejected my faith and found myself in a thick depression. That summer, I spent 40 hours a week working for the local swimming pool. Behind my glass window, I saw hundreds of mamas carrying sweet babies on their hips while in the other hand, clutching thick black and gray paper backs. In a desperate attempt to occupy my mind, I followed their recommendations and read the 50 Shades of Grey series.
By the grace of God, I didn’t explore erotica novels or pornography after that series (though, I’m sure I was a rare case). But let me be candid here, the novels left me with a series of lies and images I won’t forget.
The pages of E.L. James’ popular series glamorizes a manipulative, abusive, coercive relationship. Christian and Anastasia’s story objectifies women and offers unrealistic, degrading perspectives on sex and intimacy.
As a full-time campus missionary, I spend countless hours praying for and consoling women breaking their silence from abusive relationships. Knowing the content and popularity of 50 Shades of Grey leaves me with a righteous anger. Thanks to satan’s infiltration of our media, men and women buy into a lie that abusive relationships are acceptable. In my opinion, 50 Shades of Grey intensifies rape-culture.
Frankly, I’m over it. I’m over satan and the lies he feeds our little girls that their worth is in how they perform sexually. I’m over seeing mamas pass this “artistic” novel between book clubs. I’m over our society’s desensitization to rape and abuse. Literally, a book about coercion sold more than 100 million copies in TWO YEARS. I’m over Hollywood’s portrayal of love being beautiful and Jesus’ being “outdated.”
Ladies, your mind, your body, your life is worth SO MUCH MORE than what E.L. James portrays in this risque series. You are worthy of love and respect and 50 Shades of Grey says otherwise. Who are you going to listen to? Are you going to choose to pollute your mind with a movie that breeds insecurity and lies? Or are you going to cling to the pages of my favorite love story; one of grace, safety, and comfort?
“The LORD appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you.” Jeremiah 31:3
You. Are. So. Valuable.
Protect your sisters. Protect your hearts. There’s a book about 50 Shades of Grace and let me tell you, it’s way better than any movie in theaters.